Is How You Act in Public...How You Behave Indoors?

By CoutureJive


This afternoon I sat at the local Dean & Deluca enjoying an iced Kombucha reviewing the next literary critique.  I was lucky (because I can write about this) to overhear the ill conversation of three ladies who's toxic words sounded more like warfare against the world instead of a lady-like productive conversation.

 

I mentioned this experience to a gentleman friend, he responded: "When are women's conversations ever productive?"  


Although I was a bit bothered by the remark since I found this irreverence towards a woman's public ability and personal manners so backwards macho 80's thinking...at the same time, I realized...he may just have a point.  


When are women's conversations productive?  Why is it that so many of us resort to pouting and talking bad about others behind their back, instead of choosing civility and kindness with one another?  That girl you don't like may just end up being your best friend.

I decided to stay longer and perform a mini study on society reflecting on the behavior of all women around me.  


The women sitting behind me cackled loudly, it sounded like a mob of chickens running for something.  Yet, there they were, sitting and getting louder and louder by the second.  By the way ladies you're not supposed to cackle loudly in a quiet place where people are enjoying a nice  afternoon.  You never know if prince charming is sitting next to you in utter disgust.


Another young woman in her late twenties, grabbed a chair and instead of making the small effort to lift it, she insensitively interrupted the serenity of the soothing music and fresh breeze...  


(High Pitched Screech!)


...she dragged this metal chair across a stone floor and I watched (what I assume to be) an eighty year old retiree cover her ears and nod her head in disapproval of the unbearable sound this metal chair made against a brick floor.  Then this young woman, (obviously a professional by the looks of her attire) proceeded to looking at the old woman and saying: "What lady!".  Ladies, another tip, respect for the elderly is forever king, in our case, queen.

 

Then I observed a girl of college age sitting on her chair, intently reading a book chewing on her gum.  But when I mean chewing, I mean, CHEWING.  Pop.  


Pop.  
                Pop.  I was watching a mountain goat in action.  Her gum then gets stuck to her chin, grabs her hands and puts it in her mouth.  Continues chewing...


Thinking that no one was watching her, tiring of the flavor probably...she slowly slipped the chewy green piece of gooey saliva puss...right under the table she was sitting in.  


I watched in horror and felt my eyebrows rise above my Burberry glasses.  I could not help to bring my sun protective contraptions down to my nose and think....Lady like behavior?  I wonder if she puts gum under her nightstands.  Perhaps there's gum in her couch or under her living room centerpiece table.

 

What stories of unlady-like horrors do you have to share?  If the person was your friend, didd you call them out?


Add to the conversation and help bring civility, manners and being a glamorous lady back in style!

Style Yourself Daily With the 14-Point Rule

Here's the 14 point guideline for dressing yourself in the mornings:


As you style yourself in the mornings, take time for your self and really think of what you are wearing.  Do a mirror assessment of your outfit in front of a large mirror for each piece of clothing/accessory that you are wearing so you can figure out if you are overloaded on your style.


The clothing/accessory point goes like this:


Solid Colors = 1 point
Print = 2 points
Jewelry = 2 points
Flat shoes or heels one color without buckles = 1 point
Flat shoes or heels colorful with details = 2 points
Hair pieces/accessories = 2 points


 For example:
1. Long sleeve striped t-shirt with gold buttons =2 points
2. Plain white tank top = 1 point
3. Dark Blue Jeans = 1 point
4. Leather brown belt with etched brass buckle = 2 points
5. Diamond stud earrings =1 point
6. Decorative ring =2
7. Gray ballerina shoes, one color = 1 point


 Total Style points = 10


We still had an additional four points which could have been allocated for a throw over jacket on top of the outfit (which if flat color it would have been one point), or a set of funky brass bracelets with a fabulous bag.  Remember: If you go above 14 points mark, you are wearing too much.  Remember, use the K.I.S.S. Rule for always looking clean and maintaining a classy style.

Rufus Wainwright, The Genius of Fashion in Music Videos

Across The Universe, the Beatles Hit Song presently broadcasted in space by NASA, covered by Rufus Wainwright has a video accompanying the whimsical lyrics through a beautifully, colorful, and mentally stimulating story of images. Within it, Art becomes reality and reality becomes art expressed through the emotional landscape of music.

Wainwright wears a daring pair of Prada jeans featuring a corduroy stitch that binds together different pieces of cloth. I had the same pair of pants and you have to absolutely be comfortable with wearing something extraordinary, as the interesting (and quite comfortable) jeans are visually perplexing, and people usually do a double take when you walk by them.

The video also showcases few items important to developing class as a gentleman, and fostering a sense of personal style and individuality in children (in particular little girls).

1. When it rains outside, food goodness sake, wear a raincoat. You don't want to arrive at your destination wet and then unpleasantly drying into a putrid smell of humidity.

On a rainy day, the perfect gentleman wears:
a. Hat
b. Watch
c. Handkerchief
d. Closed toe shoes (with socks!)
e. Rain coat

Elaborating on this commentary, has anyone noticed today how mothers are so preoccupied with their own lifestyle, personal style and enjoyment, there are a few that have forgotten that just because they look good-their kid may not.

Dakota Fanning looks stellar in this video, looking exactly as she should...a little girl. It amuses me to see a mother dressed in designer blouses, wearing the latest bag featured on Bazaar, a diamond ring larger than Kilimanjaro yet...their child is incredibly unkempt, messy hair, runny nose, dirty clothes and shoes.

Parents, don't you know just like your household, your children become a direct reflection of you? Although you are clean, if your kid is dirty, you are not a clean human, and in my book, you will be defined as neglectful.

Dakota has graduated into the world of "big girls", yet this video is a good reminder for those mothers out there dressing like "hussies" who also style their little girls inappropriately: class above all, fashion slavery never, especially for a child.

So take care of yourself gentleman, keep your lady in class check, and please, develop true self esteem in your child by ensuring your little girl wears age appropriate clothing.